July 15, 2024

Ali Eaves, the Men’s Health Girl Next Door, takes all your questions on women, love, and lust.

Is there an easy way to invite her back to my place for sex?
—Aaron from Cleveland, Ohio

The best approach is the straightforward one.

Pull her close and whisper in her ear: “I really want to be alone with you. Want to come back to my place?”

Don’t worry if it doesn’t sound quite as smooth as you’d like—a bit of awkwardness will actually be endearing. She’ll appreciate that it doesn’t seem like you have too much practice making the offer.

Related: How to Pleasure a Woman: The Men’s Health Guide to Becoming a Master Lover

The important thing is to convey authenticity and confidence.

Some guys try to be coy, inventing some excuse to get a woman alone when they’re really hoping for sex. (“You haven’t seen The Godfather?! I have the whole trilogy on DVD!”)

I get it—these guys probably feel like they’re playing it safe. But women can usually smell an ulterior motive.

And more importantly, this is not the time for pretense.

If you’re clear about what you’re asking, you’ll get the clear answer you need to get on with your evening.